Dr. Sex - Column #3 08-09-06

QUESTION: How can I cure my abnormally high sex drive?

ANSWER: I'm not sure I know what an "abnormally high" sex drive is.
Whose sex drive are you measuring it against? There is a wide range to what healthy, normal humans do, sexually.

Some healthy, normal folks simply have no interest in sex, some like sexual activity more than once a day. Some people just like it more than others. They enjoy it as a hobby, one that they may be able to share with a partner.

Is touching sexual? Is kissing sexual? Is talking about sex being sexual? Variables such as age, health, living arrangements and contentment with relationships may also have an affect on sex drive.

When you talk about "cure," you make sex drive sound like a disease, which it is not, hence there can be no cure. If you are concerned about your sex drive, or that of your partners, don't feel pressured to abide by what other people do. You know what is right for you and what is uncomfortable. Let that information guide you in your decision-making, communication, and judgment.

If your sexual choices are interfering with other parts of your life, then seek appropriate counseling, but please don't buy the specious addiction model when it comes to sexuality. It just doesn't fit. I'll discuss more about this topic in the next column.

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